Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Reed's Birthday - April 11, 2011

I know that Reed will probably ask us about the story of his birth a thousand times throughout his life, and we'll always be more than happy to oblige in the telling, but I wanted to record it here, so that I could try to capture as many of the details as possible.  Some things are already fuzzy, so I didn't want too much more time to pass by!

Reed's due date was April 6, a Wednesday, and by that point, we had already had two false alarms, one in the early morning of March 29 and one in the early morning of April 5.  I experienced regular contractions, about 5 minutes apart, on both occasions, and we even went to the hospital on April 5, but the contractions weren't true labor, and we were sent home.  At my doctor's appointment on April 5, Dr. Wolfgram (one of my favorite doctors in my OBGYN practice) said he thought I would be nursing our baby by that weekend, but to schedule an appointment for the next Monday, April 11, just in case.

April 6 came and went.  We were so ready at that point and every day we anxiously awaited Reed's arrival, but I experienced nothing more than Braxton Hicks contractions.  On the morning of April 11, we went to the doctor, expecting that we would have a discussion about when to induce my labor, since Reed was already five days late at this point. They hooked me up to a machine to monitor the baby's heart rate and my contractions.  Everything looked good, except for a 2-3 minute period when the baby's heart rate dropped to around 80 beats per minute.  I was pretty alarmed by that, since his heart rate had always been between 130 and 150 at every other appointment.  When the doctor, Jackie Apgar, came in to review everything, she also indicated some concern with the decreased heart rate and said that if it were her sister, she would send her to the hospital that day to be induced.  She said that it could be just a fluke, but at five days late, there was really no need for me to be pregnant anymore and that we should go home, get our bags, and head to the hospital.  She thought that they would give me Cervadil, a gel inserted into my cervix to help prepare for labor and start contractions, and then they would start Pitocin the following morning.

Jeff and I were surprised that this was "the day", but we were so excited and went home to load up the car.  We called Jeanne and Felicia on the way home to let them know, and everyone started making plans to head to the hospital.  After getting our bags, we checked into the hospital at around 1:30 p.m.  At that point, I was having lots of Braxton Hicks contractions, but feeling good and not in real labor. We loved that our room was all set for our little guy to arrive!

Ready to get the show on the road!

Diaper, hat, and incubator, all ready and waiting for our baby!

Our first nurse, Karen, was wonderful and made us feel really comfortable from the outset.  But after she hooked me up to the monitor and saw how many contractions I was having, she said she thought that the doctor on call, Dr. Alter, would probably not want to give me Cervadil, but start with Pitocin right away.  Once Cervadil has been inserted, the amount can't be monitored, while the amount of Pitocin can always be played with to get the right amount of stimulation.  Since I was already having contractions, Karen thought Pitocin would be a safer bet. 

When Dr. Alter came in to see me, at around 2:30 p.m., he actually said that he just wanted to "get things started" by breaking my water, seeing what happened, and then adding Pitocin in afterward.  Again, Jeff and I were surprised because we didn't think anything was really going to happen until the next day, but we were excited that things were happening more quickly.  We now realized there was a good chance that our baby would be born that day.  After the doctor broke my water, I started having contractions on my own, although they did administer a small amount of Pitocin a little while later to help things along.  At around 4:30 or 5 p.m. the contractions became much harder and came very frequently, so I asked for the epidural.  While getting the epidural wasn't the most pleasant experience, I was a very happy camper afterward and remained so throughout the rest of the labor.  Yay for epidurals!  After that point, I never felt anything more than slight pressure, which was wonderful.

A little loopy from the epidural


 After that, the labor progressed really well, with just a few hiccups.  Both Reed and I had some reactions to the epidural - Reed's heart rate dropped again into the 80s and my blood pressure dropped pretty low.  I was given some oxygen and told to lie on my side to help Reed.  The doctor, now Dr. Apgar from my morning appointment, was monitoring things the whole time, and we were fine, but it was a little scary at some points and we thought once that we might have to do a C-section if Reed's heart rate dropped again. Luckily, after 8:30 p.m. or so, everything stabilized.

By that point, Jeanne, Felicia, and Paul had all arrived at the hospital (Jeanne had arrived earlier, around 3 p.m., and Felicia and Paul arrived around 7), and the three grandparents-to-be went out to grab a bite to eat.  While they were gone, I dilated to 9 centimeters and by the time they got back, we were very close to pushing.  At 10 p.m., Dr. Apgar came back in to check on me and I had reached 10 centimeters.  She asked if I was ready to push and then the real work began!  But I was lucky - I only had to push for 35 minutes before our sweet boy entered the world - all 7 pounds, 9 ounces, and 21 1/2 inches of him!

Not all that happy to be on the outside!
It's so tough being a baby!
Proud Mama
Reed Alexander cried from the moment he came out and seemed perfectly healthy, with great Apgar scores.  I was so happy to hold this precious baby who had been inside of me for 10 months!  But when she was examining him, the nurse detected some irregularities in his breathing and they immediately called the neonatologist on duty to come in and look at him.  When she got to our room, she said that they would need to take him the NICU for further exams and X-rays.  Jeff and I were so disappointed, but still in something of a post-delivery haze.  I don't think we truly realized the potential seriousness of what was going on at that point.  Jeff surprised me with some beautiful sapphire and diamond earrings - Reed's and my birthstones - and we drank a bottle of sparkling cider with Jeanne, Felicia, and Paul to celebrate Reed's birth.

Amazing push present!

After that, we were moved to our Mother/Baby room - not so aptly named in our case, since we never got to have our baby in the room!  At that point, the reality that we did not have our baby with us had really sunk in, but the neonatologist had told us that Reed's diagnosis - a pneumothorax, also known as an air bubble in the lung or a partially collapsed lung - often resolves itself in newborns and that it would likely be better by the morning.  We went to bed exhausted and disappointed, but looking forward to having our baby back in the morning.

Unfortunately, the morning did not bring better news.  We were told that the pneumothorax had not resolved overnight and the x-rays showed it to be fairly large.  Reed would need to stay in the NICU at least another day, and most likely longer.  The doctors told us that if didn't go away on its own within a few days, they would have to perform a medical intervention - either inserting a needle to deflate the air bubble or inserting a chest tube - either of which could require much more time in the hospital, up to two weeks.  Jeff and I were devastated, scared, and disappointed.  We never really imagined that we would have anything other than a perfectly healthy baby, and I don't think either of us were emotionally prepared for dealing with our situation.

Overall, Reed spent two and a half days in the NICU.  Holding and nursing him was difficult because he was hooked up to monitors, but we spent as much time with him as we could.  He was by far the biggest baby in the NICU, which made us very proud!

Reed's first room and bed
Daddy time
On Wednesday evening we got the good news that we would most likely be able to take Reed home with us on Thursday, pending a final x-ray.  On Thursday, the x-rays showed that the air bubble had gone away and he received a clean bill of health. We were beyond thrilled to take Reed home and begin life as a new family!  From start to finish, nearly nothing about Reed's birth went "according to plan", but it showed us that we have a very strong little boy who is already able to conquer life's adversities, and it also made us more empathetic to those families who have an even longer stay in the NICU.  We feel very blessed!

First time in the car seat!
In the car, ready to go home

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Reed is 1-Month Old!

In what has become my true blogging form, I'm horribly late in posting about our newest addition - Reed Alexander Lang, who was born on Monday, April 11 at 10:35 p.m.!  He is now a little over one month old and Jeff and I are in shock at both the speed with which the first month has passed, as well as how much our sweet boy has grown in that time.  Born at 7 pounds, 9 ounces, and 21 1/2 inches long, Reed weighed 9 pounds, 14 ounces at his 1-month check-up and was 22 1/2 inches long (90th percentile for height!).  He seems to add another chin every day and his little chicken legs are finally starting to show some adorable rolls. 

Some other special things about Reed in his first month:
  •  He makes an extraordinary number of different sounds (even his pediatrician called him "expressive"!), but his most regular one sounds like a goat.
  • He's an excellent tracker and likes to follow both toys and Mommy and Daddy with his dark blue eyes.
  • He loves bath time!
  • He's an excellent sleeper and has even given his parents a few nights of 4-5 hours of consecutive rest.
  • His favorite nap location (other than someone's lap) is the papasan cradle swing.
  • He's a very strong little boy - not only did he vanquish a fairly large pneumothorax after birth, but he's already a pro at lifting his head and can go several seconds a time without his neck being supported (although our hands are always nearby for immediate support if needed!).
  • Although born with a full head of hair, he lost the top portion at around four weeks, making him look like a little old man.
Since I missed the boat on posting his actual arrival and first few weeks, I'll try to add them in the next few days, just so we can have a record of his birth story for posterity!  In the meantime, here's Reed at one month!

Sunday, March 13, 2011

California Baby Shower - 2/12/11

After an amazing shower in MD with girlfriends, I went home to Agoura Hills, where my mom's friends and my Aunt Candy threw me another shower at Mediterraneo, a restaurant in Westlake Village.  It was just as special as the Maryland shower, as nearly every woman in the room has known me, if not since birth, than from childhood.  Making the weekend extra special was the presence of Felicia, who flew out from New Jersey, and my two aunts, Karen and Ellen, who flew in from Texas.  I was blown away by everyone's generosity and feel lucky that our little boy is so loved already!  Here are a few of my favorite pics from the weekend.

Three generations - Nana, Mom, and Tara
Family shot - Mom, Ellen, Nana, Karen, and Candy
Shower hostesses - Joyce Novak, Fern Rice, Marty Terwilliger, Esty Lohnberg, Susan Eddy, and Candy Sherwin
Some of Mom's oldest friends - and all new grandmothers!  Kathy Fried, Marilyn Riffle, and Mary Wicke 
Bubby and Gram?!
Very special gift from Felicia - the afghan she made for Jeff after his birth.
Baby's first teddy bear from Aunt Gail and Uncle Dennis!
Back home we review the gifts - fun tummy time surfboard from Shelly Glasser.
Amazing handmade quilt and sweater from Mickey Kowitz.
Family dinner caps off a wonderful day!

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Maryland Baby Shower - 2/5/11

It's been way too long since the last post, but it's been a crazy month and a half!  Jeff and I have been busy not only preparing the house for our imminent arrival (only about 6 1/2 weeks to go - yikes!), but also enjoying house guests and baby showers, and spending some quality time together.  Over Martin Luther King weekend, we went down to the Charottesville, VA area and stayed at a lovely B&B for a couple of days.  It was nice to just enjoy each other's company, without the stress of our everyday lives.  And since the B&B didn't have TVs, radios, or computers, we certainly got to spend plenty of time chatting, reading, and relaxing. 

Rachael (Jeff's sister) came to visit us the last weekend of January and she was a HUGE help in painting the nursery and our den/office.  Since paint fumes aren't great for pregnant women and the physical act of painting is a little more difficult at 7 months pregnant, Rachael was a lifesaver.  It would have taken Jeff twice as long to get everything done.  Now the nursery looks great and we only have a few things left to do in there before it's "finished".  Stay tuned for pictures of the nursery to come, once it's REALLY completed.

And now I finally come to the first weekend of February and the real point of this entry- my Maryland baby shower!  It was so amazing.  My mom, sister-in-law Brie, mother-in-law Felicia, and Rachael all came in for the big day, as did my college roommate, Lisa Munger.  In addition to my family, there were women at the shower from all different parts of my life - work, synagogue, our "posse", and even grade school.  The day was unbelievably special and I feel so blessed to have such amazing women in my life.  Our sweet boy is so loved already!  Here are a few of my favorite pics from the day.

Dear friends and hostesses Maureen Turner and Beth Steiner

Shower hostesses Brie Sherwin, Maureen Turner, Beth Steiner, Vanessa Yost, and Mary Mazzuca

Gram/Gigi "holding" her grandson!

Awesome Costco cake!

My amazing sister-in-law Brie and college best friend Lisa Munger

Felicia and Rachael with the fabulous diaper cake they made!

Baby pictures of Jeff and me - with our sweet boy in the middle

Grade school friends Holly Hull and Hope Feldman

Diet Mountain Dew hat and cute bibs from Jen Simon and Erin Sudow

Special friends!

Back home in the nursery with Mr. Octopus

Best family!




Monday, January 3, 2011

Rose Bowl Champs!

While a trip to Pasadena wasn't in the cards this year, we compromised by hosting a game-watching party to see my beloved Frogs (#3 - woot!) take on the Wisconsin Badgers in the Rose Bowl.  And take on they did!  The Frogs played a tremendous game, edging out the Badgers 21-19.  It was a proud moment for all Horned Frogs and I was so happy to have our friends celebrating with us.  Even better, Beth and Alex made the trip down from Baltimore with sweet Eli and we all got to enjoy some baby time in between plays.  Here are some fun pics from the night (plus a 26 1/2-week belly pic - Jeff couldn't resist!).

New mommy Beth and baby Eli - 3 1/2 weeks old!

Baby Frog at 26 1/2 weeks

Alex was entranced by the game.  We're not sure about Eli . . .

Skeptical smile aside, Jen Simon thought Eli was pretty darn cute.

Go Frogs!!!

Jeff got in some good baby-holding practice.

Nearly done with the second trimester - about 3 months til go time!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Eyes and Ears and Mouth and Nose

Well, no ears in this picture, but we've got eyes, mouth, and nose covered!  Today we had our fourth (and maybe last) ultrasound and everything with T-Pup looks just about perfect.  Our little guy weighs 1 lb, 10 ounces - in the 47th percentile, which is great.  He's actually measuring a few days ahead of schedule, so Jeff might wind up with his April Fools baby after all!  Stomach, amniotic fluid, kidneys, heart - everything checked out just fine.  My cervix was long and there were no signs of any problems whatsoever, which was a huge relief to Jeff and me. 

Our technician was AWESOME and got this great, 4-D image of T-Pup's face.  He's positioned face up against the placenta, so we think his nose is a little smushed, but it looks like he might have Jeff's mouth!

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Babies, Friends, and Kitty

We've been busy since our last post!  Between a weeklong Thanksgiving trip to California, two huge work events for Tara,  a work conference for Jeff, the breakdown of Jeff's car, Jeff's dad's surgery, T-Pup's continued growth, and the birth of three sweet baby boys to good friends, we're just now starting to catch our breath. We're still not quite in the habit of carrying the camera everywhere we go (we'll get better, I promise!), so we don't have pictures of everything, but here are few snapshots of some fun moments in the last few weeks - including one of my growing bump, just for the grandmas.

23 weeks and 1 day
Eli Jonathan Steiner is just four days old!  He already loves Uncle Jeff.
Jeff was a natural holding him!


Sweet kitty Ari P.  Sometimes she's camera-shy . . .
  
Adorable Josie Rafferty, the 3-month-old daughter of my awesome coworker, Lori.

We're not sure how Ari cuddled up underneath the pillow and blanket, but she looked precious.

The bris of Jack Kenneth Spiegel, son to Ryan and Rachael.

The bris of Eli Jonathan Steiner, son of dear friends Beth and Alex Steiner.

Baby Eli liked the wine!

Glowing Mama Beth amd Eli post-bris - they were both champs!

Brunch with my oldest friends, Holly (Hartman) Hull and Hope Feldman.